Comments on: Making mama-bear waves.

By: dbmamaz

dbmamaz — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 23:24:31 +0000

oh, tears in my eyes too, you were great!

By: Mom #1

Mom #1 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 00:24:45 +0000

I’m so late, so I’ll just say “ditto” to everyone else’s sentiments.

Sometimes I find myself doing and saying the craziest things in advocacy of my Baby Boy and you know how big and capable he is.

Moms are their children’s advocates. Period. If anyone doesn’t like it. Too bad.

Them’s the rules!

By: Karisma

Karisma — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 20:15:34 +0000

PS…I raised one extremely sensitive child myself and learned early on that its best to stand behind her and support her than stand in front of her and not give her a choice! You are doing a fantastic job!

By: Karisma

Karisma — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 20:11:50 +0000

LOL at RegularDad…….I also agree you did exactly the right thing, especially they way you handled the actual incident. I know a couple of people with sensitive kids, one in particular who ALWAYS over reacts and it does not help the child at all. They become aware that the parent will make a fuss and they use it to their advantage as they get older to always have things revolving around themselves.

You on the other hand moved in gently and still gave her the space to deal with it. Which she did, or she would not have wanted to go back to the party. You could not have done anything better.

By: RegularMom

RegularMom — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:19:04 +0000

LOL… Dude… you were supposed to take the BLUE pill. The BLUE ONE!

But, seriously… thanks hon.

By: regular_dad

regular_dad — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 02:45:36 +0000

I too think you did the right thing and I know you. Our kids are very lucky to have a Mom as great as you. However you did leave out the part where I did a flying scissor kick within one inch the black belts nose which knocked him out just from the ferocity of my skills and anger. It was like I was a Jedi who just ate a Sith Lord and had mad Matrix programming. They knew digitally that I was a force to be reckoned with.

Ok, it is does give one pause to get in the face of a third degree black belt.

By: RegularMom

RegularMom — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 02:00:42 +0000

Thanks everyone. I feel much better.

By: Sparklee

Sparklee — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 22:41:45 +0000

I wish that all adults understood the impact that teasing can have on children. Those guys may think that they were just kidding around, but intimidating a little girl (or anyone, for that matter) is NEVER funny. If they were capable of real empathy, they would have recognized that. You did the right thing, and you handled it with more grace than I would have!

I don’t know much about martial arts, but isn’t there something about being strong AND gentle? And not using your strength aggressively? And self-control? They were out of bounds, not you!

By: Niqi

Niqi — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 21:12:45 +0000

No you did not over-react. I think you handled it beautifully. If it had been me I would not have handled it so well – I would have reprimended the men and told them what I thought of their so-called joke – and then I would have talked to the owner right away and then to my child. and I would have been anxious and upset. Of course I probably would have made a comment about the food fight too – like “set an example, or act your age” or something.

My mother was an extreme reactor – she would have dragged those men over to see the owner right away, and written a letter, and told everyone she could about the situation. I was always embarassed as a child and upset whenever my mom would “defend” me. I did learn to defend myself. And I do speak out on occasion when I see someone doing something wrong (like if their pet in left in a car in summer with no windows down) – but I have learned to do some with more finesse and tact.

You handled the situation right – but perhaps some of your left over anxiety is because you feel like you could have done more – and then are imagining those consequences. Not just reality.

I’m sure everything will be fine at the dojo – and might even improve for the next party – perhaps they’ll seperate it so that the kids have their own party and the older ones have theirs.

The way you explained everything to your daughter was wonderful. Letting her know that YOU are her safe place always.

By: Bobbi

Bobbi — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 21:11:40 +0000

You were right where you needed to be and I would not consider that response an overreaction. I am not certain I would have been quite that level headed but I have an extreme lack of tolerance for adults at parties especially when they are being asshats.