Comments on: Just us…at the lake. http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/ Reader. Writer. Thinker. Homeschooler. Insomniac. Sat, 27 Feb 2010 16:53:22 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Rustys Mom http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-5037 Rustys Mom Mon, 11 Jan 2010 03:36:21 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-5037 This was a great post. The longer I've homeschooled though I find myself "socializing" less and less. I used to put up with people I didn't particularly care for just so my kids could be around other kids. Now that they have kids they consider friends I don't feel the need "get them out" so much. I'm a homebody and like being home so that helps too. I have made a couple of friends through homeschooling and I enjoy their company but I don't feel the need to get together all the time with them anymore than I do with my non homeschooling friends. It only gets hard because Baseball Boy has a different set of friends than the girls so I can't combine them as easily. But mine love the park so I use that as a great meeting place that covers both the boys and the girls. I also have built up a confidence when being faced with challenges from family and aquaetences (man I figure out how to spell that word, sorry). That might just come from time and seeing how well your children are growing up. My mil loves to call and talk about the rotten kid she knows who was homeschooled and now is a terror. The Engineer just lets her run on about it till she burns the subject out. I just change the subject if she's talking to me. We have some extended family who are high ranking idiots in a large school district who are completely appalled that we homeschool but fortunately I don't have to see them very often, so we rarely have to listen to their rehteric (what's wrong with me I can't spell tonight). Love the group of photos although I don't know if it's because of the format or the beautiful shots. That's enough rambling on your comment section. E This was a great post. The longer I’ve homeschooled though I find myself “socializing” less and less. I used to put up with people I didn’t particularly care for just so my kids could be around other kids. Now that they have kids they consider friends I don’t feel the need “get them out” so much. I’m a homebody and like being home so that helps too. I have made a couple of friends through homeschooling and I enjoy their company but I don’t feel the need to get together all the time with them anymore than I do with my non homeschooling friends. It only gets hard because Baseball Boy has a different set of friends than the girls so I can’t combine them as easily. But mine love the park so I use that as a great meeting place that covers both the boys and the girls. I also have built up a confidence when being faced with challenges from family and aquaetences (man I figure out how to spell that word, sorry). That might just come from time and seeing how well your children are growing up. My mil loves to call and talk about the rotten kid she knows who was homeschooled and now is a terror. The Engineer just lets her run on about it till she burns the subject out. I just change the subject if she’s talking to me. We have some extended family who are high ranking idiots in a large school district who are completely appalled that we homeschool but fortunately I don’t have to see them very often, so we rarely have to listen to their rehteric (what’s wrong with me I can’t spell tonight).

Love the group of photos although I don’t know if it’s because of the format or the beautiful shots.

That’s enough rambling on your comment section. E

]]> By: RegularMom http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-4011 RegularMom Thu, 07 Aug 2008 21:11:54 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-4011 Jen, many thanks for reading, and for your comment. To answer your immediate question: yes, they can socialize without me, and they often do. Just because we homeschool doesn't mean that they never attend activities without me. My older child is involved with Girl Scouts, and does all of those activities without me being there. She also attends a religious education program, and a library reading club -- also without me. She seems to have no difficulties socializing with other children her age or her teachers in these environments. In fact, her teachers tell me that she is extraordinarily well-adjusted and well liked by others. When my younger daughter reaches first grade, she'll also attend similar functions. Without me. And I expect that she'll do fine, although she may be a little wilder, because that's just her personality. If you'd like to read more in depth regarding the socialization of homeschooled children, there are numerous articles and books on this very subject. If you'd like a list of materials, please let me know, and I'll either email it to you, or post it here. Again, many thanks for reading. :) Jen, many thanks for reading, and for your comment. To answer your immediate question: yes, they can socialize without me, and they often do. Just because we homeschool doesn’t mean that they never attend activities without me. My older child is involved with Girl Scouts, and does all of those activities without me being there. She also attends a religious education program, and a library reading club — also without me. She seems to have no difficulties socializing with other children her age or her teachers in these environments. In fact, her teachers tell me that she is extraordinarily well-adjusted and well liked by others.

When my younger daughter reaches first grade, she’ll also attend similar functions. Without me. And I expect that she’ll do fine, although she may be a little wilder, because that’s just her personality.

If you’d like to read more in depth regarding the socialization of homeschooled children, there are numerous articles and books on this very subject. If you’d like a list of materials, please let me know, and I’ll either email it to you, or post it here.

Again, many thanks for reading. :)

]]> By: Jen http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-4010 Jen Wed, 06 Aug 2008 20:49:13 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-4010 Disclaimer: I'm not a parent. I came across your post on Blog Nosh and found it really interesting. In response to your post and Katherine's comment - from an outsider perspective I think the question is, can they socialize without you? I'm neutral about home schooling and do not know what I will choose once I'm in that position. What I worry about is my child's independence in a social environment. Looking back I think I learned valuable lessons being on my own on the playground, in class, and the cafeteria without my parents by my side. I'd be interested in comments regarding this. Disclaimer: I’m not a parent. I came across your post on Blog Nosh and found it really interesting. In response to your post and Katherine’s comment – from an outsider perspective I think the question is, can they socialize without you? I’m neutral about home schooling and do not know what I will choose once I’m in that position. What I worry about is my child’s independence in a social environment. Looking back I think I learned valuable lessons being on my own on the playground, in class, and the cafeteria without my parents by my side. I’d be interested in comments regarding this.

]]> By: Kristen http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-4005 Kristen Wed, 06 Aug 2008 12:40:45 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-4005 I commented at blognosh too-I agree totally with you! I need more than 1 day at home. I try to keep all of our outside classes to Tues and Thursdays. We run all day but then we are home the other 3; minus the errands, playdates and field trips that sneak their way in! I balk at that socialization question-my kids are so over socialized by people of all ages, races, shapes and sizes! We all need down time to reflect, relax, read, explore, and for self-discovery and boredom. I commented at blognosh too-I agree totally with you! I need more than 1 day at home. I try to keep all of our outside classes to Tues and Thursdays. We run all day but then we are home the other 3; minus the errands, playdates and field trips that sneak their way in! I balk at that socialization question-my kids are so over socialized by people of all ages, races, shapes and sizes! We all need down time to reflect, relax, read, explore, and for self-discovery and boredom.

]]> By: DJ http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-4000 DJ Wed, 06 Aug 2008 01:19:39 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-4000 I'm with you all the way. I don't socialize much, never did. I think just doing our day to day errands and such counts. Plus we play at the park. When my son is older I'm sure he will join a sport or take a group class. I don't think it's necessary to meet groups of people everyday, spending time with family is more important to me. I’m with you all the way. I don’t socialize much, never did. I think just doing our day to day errands and such counts. Plus we play at the park. When my son is older I’m sure he will join a sport or take a group class. I don’t think it’s necessary to meet groups of people everyday, spending time with family is more important to me.

]]> By: RegularMom http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-3999 RegularMom Tue, 05 Aug 2008 20:19:15 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-3999 Blogversary, I agree. Just the other day at the kids' karate lessons, RegularDad overheard another parent talking about her kid's schedule, and it's just crazy. Her kid had the same number of extra-curricular activities as ours, but hers would also be in school for more than 6 hours each day, and then go home and do homework, too. I don't know how they do it. Blogversary, I agree. Just the other day at the kids’ karate lessons, RegularDad overheard another parent talking about her kid’s schedule, and it’s just crazy. Her kid had the same number of extra-curricular activities as ours, but hers would also be in school for more than 6 hours each day, and then go home and do homework, too.

I don’t know how they do it.

]]> By: blogversary http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-3997 blogversary Tue, 05 Aug 2008 19:40:56 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-3997 I think all moms can take your cue and pare down our schedules. Great post and I enjoyed your take on homeschooling. I think all moms can take your cue and pare down our schedules.

Great post and I enjoyed your take on homeschooling.

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]]> By: Maria http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-3682 Maria Tue, 29 Apr 2008 14:42:46 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-3682 Thanks for saying this out loud. It needs to be said. As per all the great comments you've already had...we are a society who has boughten into the fact that we have to be "going" and "doing" all the time. My daughter has somewhat bought into this, but after a long week she collapses. What is her body (and mine!) telling us?! We have the usual round of appointments in a given month (dentists (ACK!) doctors, OT, VT, groceries, etc...) but we are in the process of consolidating days to save sanity and gas money. We are working towards THREE free days at home. I have one child, so that's easier...but boy...just quiet days by the lake sound so good don't they? We need more of them. Great post. Really, really. Thanks for saying this out loud. It needs to be said. As per all the great comments you’ve already had…we are a society who has boughten into the fact that we have to be “going” and “doing” all the time. My daughter has somewhat bought into this, but after a long week she collapses. What is her body (and mine!) telling us?!

We have the usual round of appointments in a given month (dentists (ACK!) doctors, OT, VT, groceries, etc…) but we are in the process of consolidating days to save sanity and gas money. We are working towards THREE free days at home. I have one child, so that’s easier…but boy…just quiet days by the lake sound so good don’t they? We need more of them. Great post. Really, really.

]]> By: Summer http://regular-mom.com/2008/04/22/just-usat-the-lake/#comment-3659 Summer Thu, 24 Apr 2008 02:20:47 +0000 http://regularmom.wordpress.com/?p=498#comment-3659 I get worried like that a lot. I'm a total introvert, I don't like constantly doing things and go places with a lot of people. But then I feel guilty that I'm not sending the kids to every play date, group, picnic offered so they can "socialize" more. I get worried like that a lot. I’m a total introvert, I don’t like constantly doing things and go places with a lot of people. But then I feel guilty that I’m not sending the kids to every play date, group, picnic offered so they can “socialize” more.

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